Sometimes you need dynamite…

Well, yesterday is the type of day I’d like to see repeated sometime never.

I figured out that as good at communicating as I am with the written word, I suck when it comes to talking with Lynn. The resulting blowout was…unpleasant.

As unpleasant as it was though, it got us talking, and actually listening. The explosion of pent up frustration on both of our parts blew open the log jam that was causing us to both isolate.

Last night and today have been so much better because of it. We have been talking. We have been doing things together, and isolating less. In short we’ve been working together as a team again, not as two separate ships heading separate directions.

The entire atmosphere seems lighter, and things feel like I can breathe again. It definitely made the trip to Red Deer much more enjoyable than it could have been.

We were in Red Deer today for an appointment for Lynn at a specialist. For the record, it’s never a good thing when a specialist says “I don’t know what is going on.”

An old medical axiom is “when you hear hoofbeats, think horses, not zebras.” In Lynn’s case, she a zebra (she says she’s a unicorn, lol) The meaning behind the saying is go to the most likely problems first. In Lynn’s case, some issues have been ruled out, but some other possible issues haven’t really been ruled in either. The doctor did say that he had a suspicion as to what may be going on, but until we get some more tests back we’re in hold mode. More tests are ordered and we go back to see him in the fall, hopefully with some answers.

Otherwise, the day was good. We scoured some stores looking for a seemingly rare puzzle for a friend, unfortunately to no avail. We had a browse through Chapters, and I got a photography magazine, a creative writing book, and the Red Dead Redemption 2 collectors edition strategy guide, and Lynn found herself an Atari art book which is pretty cool.

I hate the blowout we had yesterday, but I’m happy that it’s lead to better communication and compromise.

Unfortunately, sometimes you need the dynamite to get rid of the obstruction. In our case it seems to be the case.


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